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Oh Yes You Are! How to Know and Affirm Your Own Self-Worth

Oh Yes You Are! How to Know and Affirm Your Own Self-Worth

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Too many people sadly confuse their self worth with their net worth. Your value as a human being is hardly determined by your income or bank statement. It seems that these days, we spend all of our focus on being considerate and kind to others, and trying to get other people to like us. But what about ourselves? Shouldn’t we be considerate and kind to ourselves?

Obviously, the way you treat yourself will be a direct reflection of your own self-esteem. The problem is, many of us still seem to be seeking external approval. But self-esteem is just that… it’s SELF-esteem. And you’ll know when your self-esteem is at the level it should be at. You will be a far more self-reliant, joyful, and well-adjusted individual.

On the flip side of this coin, a poor self-esteem can have incredibly negative effects on your life. People with really low self-esteem often become irrational, over-emotional, anxious, depressed, miserable, and angry. Believe it or not, our self-esteem shows up on our faces, in our body language, and in our actions, as well as our interactions with others. With a healthy self-esteem, you will radiate positivity. You will be far more approachable and others will be drawn to you.

It’s like the Golden Rule, but in reverse. Do unto yourself and others will follow suit. Does this make sense to you? When you’re good to yourself, it shows. And others will be good to you, too… simply because you’ve inspired them to be! Again, your self worth isn’t any more nor any less than you say it is. YOU. That is the key word. Let’s explore self-esteem in just a little more detail.

Healthy Self-Esteem

There are many tell-tale signs that most individuals with positive self-esteems have in common. Generally speaking, if you have a high self-esteem, you:

  • Have tremendous security about who you are, what you stand for, and what you have to offer the world.
  • Permit yourself to open up to others, sharing your feelings with zero fear or embarrassment.
  • Are a better, more confident, more passionate lover.
  • Can feel good about your accomplishments without downplaying them.
  • Forgive easily. You don’t let the little (or even many big) things get to you.

Poor Self-Esteem

I’m sure it goes without saying that there are also noticeable manifestations of an unhealthy self-esteem. If this is where you’re currently living, then it is quite likely that you:

  • Are very insecure in your abilities and decision-making, and are always looking for external approval.
  • Generally shy away from physical or emotional intimacy.
  • Hide your feelings, showing an apathetic attitude toward others.
  • Rarely give yourself any credit when you accomplish something.
  • Hold onto resentment for others and give yourself unnecessary guilt.
  • Are resistant to meaningful, positive change.

Cultivating a Healthy Self-Worth

A number of methods exists for helping you lift your self-esteem to new heights, effectively transforming your life into a successful, fulfilling reality that you are proud to call your own. I would like to present you with 6 easy-to-implement techniques. I hope this helps…

1. Write down ALL of your positive attributes. What do you like about yourself? Your eyes? Your sense of humor? Your ability to appreciate art? Don’t stop writing until you’ve got at least 30 things on your list.

2. When you catch yourself doing something you like, make a big deal about it. Humility is not always your best friend. If you can praise anybody else for doing something great, you should definitely be willing to praise yourself.

3. Treat yourself to things that uplift your spirit or tantalize your body. Pamper yourself. Get plenty of sunshine, go swimming, cruise around in your car for no reason. Just enjoy yourself… and being with yourself.

4. Sin with purpose. What do I mean? While self-discipline can get you your desired results, build character, and blah blah blah, you need to take an intentional break from it every now and then. Indulge in your guilty pleasures, knowing full well that you’re worth it.

5. Have fun, positive conversations with yourself. Make up jokes. Laugh for no reason. Compliment yourself in the mirror. Have fun with yourself and really come to love your own company.

6. If someone is nasty or rude to you, understand that it has absolutely nothing to do with you. It’s their opinion, not yours. Just remember and live by this very powerful phrase. “Your opinion of me is none of my business.”

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Becoming Your Own Best Friend Through Healthy Internal Dialogue

Becoming Your Own Best Friend Through Healthy Internal Dialogue

When we are able to look within and draw upon our own strength and wisdom to guide our decision-making, we give ourselves an incredible advantage in life. Specifically, the way we direct our thoughts will determine how we feel and ultimately, the actions we take.

We are constantly having silent, internal conversations with ourselves. For most of us, this happens unconsciously. But when we bring it into our consciousness and begin to actually control what we’re saying to ourselves, all new possibilities open up to us.

The key is to transform our self-talk from negatives into positives. Negative self-talk can lead to debilitating inaction. You don’t get the results you want in life because you’ve already convinced yourself that you can’t… or that you’re not worthy. When you turn this around and start telling yourself that you are capable and worthy, the world suddenly becomes a much brighter place. You see people and situations differently. You become lighter.

Everything we experience in our lives, be it material or internal, begins with the thoughts in our head. Change the way you think and you change the way you feel. Change the way you feel and you change the way you behave. Change your behavior and you change your reality. When problems arise, you can handle them quickly and graciously. When life knocks you down, you can get back on your feet within minutes.

Directing your mind in a way that produces positivity and optimism allows you to see problems for what they are because you are not being emotionally crushed by them. Actually, most problems become mere challenges that you don’t mind solving. In fact, sometimes you may even enjoy it!

When you hear people talking about “mixed emotions,” that is a sure sign that they are not controlling their inner dialog. When we take control, we can choose if we want to be negative and tear ourselves down, or be strong, confident, and positive so that we can enjoy our lives and produce amazing results.

Daily Self-Talk – Keeping It Positive:

Developing the habit of using positive self-talk on a consistent, daily basis is a great way to institute a new way of thinking. Unfortunately, you will most likely be starting with a pre-existing negative thought pattern that has become well-established over the years, so if you don’t become positive overnight, don’t fret. Just be patient and consistent.

A great way to begin the process is to repeat positive incantations (emotionally charged affirmations) at least fifty times each day. This is actually quite simple. Just think of something you would like to believe about yourself or life in general, write it down in clear, positive words, and repeat these words (aloud is preferable, but silently is okay, too) with as much positive emotion as you can over and over again. The power of cultivating a positive dialogue with yourself is undeniable. You can break addictions, dramatically enhance your self-confidence, improve your relationships, earn more money, enjoy better health, and live your best life each and every day.

Examples of Positive Incantations:

  • “I am an effective problem-solver. I am far more powerful than my problems and can handle them like they’re just little toys.”
  • “I love challenges. I was built for challenges. Come on, life, give me more challenges!”
  • “I am an exceptional leader. I make this world a better place by setting a stunning example of confidence, effectiveness, and kindness.”
  • “I’ve got total mastery of this situation. I hope it doesn’t think it can pose a threat to me. That’s just silly!”
  • “I radiate vibrant health and energy. I am a living example of physical health and fitness.”
  • “I love life and life loves me!”

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Self Talk: Ask Yourself the Right Questions

Self Talk: Ask Yourself the Right Questions

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What is Self Talk?

It is asking yourself questions that direct your conscious and subconscious mind toward a positive goal or solution. The key in life is coming up with the right question. Once you have the right question, the answer usually comes quickly.

Once you start using self talk you become like an inventor. You are constantly wondering how you can do something better. It could be any process in life, from getting better gas mileage, receiving a raise at your job, finding the love of your life, experiencing radiant health or motivating others to improve the world.

Countless people don’t ask themselves many questions at all. If they do, those questions are often negative.

  • Why do I always fail?
  • Why do I have a horrible backhand? (For tennis players.)
  • Why can’t I keep a job?
  • Why does my mother in law hate me?

Ask and you shall instantly receive. Any question you ask will instantly start attracting answers to you. So if you ask, “Why am I addicted to cooked food?” You will get a list of answers.

But do these answers get you closer to your goal? Actually, they’ll probably make you feel bad about yourself.  It will tell you all the
reasons why you can’t succeed.

Some better questions would be.

  • How can I enjoy eating a healthy raw food diet?
  • What are the health, beauty, mental and athletic benefits of eating a raw food diet?

One of the key ideas with positive self talk is to focus your questions on a positive goal. In other words, ask for what you want, not for what you don’t want. You have to expect that you can get what you are asking for.

All inventions and innovations start with a question. It has been this way since the beginning of humanity.  Positive self talk shows you how to be an active inventor and innovator in your own life.  If you ask a better question, you get a better answer.

Always ask yourself how you can improve something.

  • How can I do this faster?
  • How can I delegate this task?
  • What is the Silver Lining behind this problem?
  • How can I spend more time doing what I am best at?
  • What brings me the most joy?

Remember to ask questions that direct you toward things that you want to achieve. There are always finer levels of self talk.

How to Virtually Guarantee Your Success

If you really want to take your life to the next level, I recommend you use positive self talk. I have been doing just that every morning and coming up with powerful ideas that are improving my life and business profits on a daily basis.

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