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Oh Yes You Are! How to Know and Affirm Your Own Self-Worth

Oh Yes You Are! How to Know and Affirm Your Own Self-Worth

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Too many people sadly confuse their self worth with their net worth. Your value as a human being is hardly determined by your income or bank statement. It seems that these days, we spend all of our focus on being considerate and kind to others, and trying to get other people to like us. But what about ourselves? Shouldn’t we be considerate and kind to ourselves?

Obviously, the way you treat yourself will be a direct reflection of your own self-esteem. The problem is, many of us still seem to be seeking external approval. But self-esteem is just that… it’s SELF-esteem. And you’ll know when your self-esteem is at the level it should be at. You will be a far more self-reliant, joyful, and well-adjusted individual.

On the flip side of this coin, a poor self-esteem can have incredibly negative effects on your life. People with really low self-esteem often become irrational, over-emotional, anxious, depressed, miserable, and angry. Believe it or not, our self-esteem shows up on our faces, in our body language, and in our actions, as well as our interactions with others. With a healthy self-esteem, you will radiate positivity. You will be far more approachable and others will be drawn to you.

It’s like the Golden Rule, but in reverse. Do unto yourself and others will follow suit. Does this make sense to you? When you’re good to yourself, it shows. And others will be good to you, too… simply because you’ve inspired them to be! Again, your self worth isn’t any more nor any less than you say it is. YOU. That is the key word. Let’s explore self-esteem in just a little more detail.

Healthy Self-Esteem

There are many tell-tale signs that most individuals with positive self-esteems have in common. Generally speaking, if you have a high self-esteem, you:

  • Have tremendous security about who you are, what you stand for, and what you have to offer the world.
  • Permit yourself to open up to others, sharing your feelings with zero fear or embarrassment.
  • Are a better, more confident, more passionate lover.
  • Can feel good about your accomplishments without downplaying them.
  • Forgive easily. You don’t let the little (or even many big) things get to you.

Poor Self-Esteem

I’m sure it goes without saying that there are also noticeable manifestations of an unhealthy self-esteem. If this is where you’re currently living, then it is quite likely that you:

  • Are very insecure in your abilities and decision-making, and are always looking for external approval.
  • Generally shy away from physical or emotional intimacy.
  • Hide your feelings, showing an apathetic attitude toward others.
  • Rarely give yourself any credit when you accomplish something.
  • Hold onto resentment for others and give yourself unnecessary guilt.
  • Are resistant to meaningful, positive change.

Cultivating a Healthy Self-Worth

A number of methods exists for helping you lift your self-esteem to new heights, effectively transforming your life into a successful, fulfilling reality that you are proud to call your own. I would like to present you with 6 easy-to-implement techniques. I hope this helps…

1. Write down ALL of your positive attributes. What do you like about yourself? Your eyes? Your sense of humor? Your ability to appreciate art? Don’t stop writing until you’ve got at least 30 things on your list.

2. When you catch yourself doing something you like, make a big deal about it. Humility is not always your best friend. If you can praise anybody else for doing something great, you should definitely be willing to praise yourself.

3. Treat yourself to things that uplift your spirit or tantalize your body. Pamper yourself. Get plenty of sunshine, go swimming, cruise around in your car for no reason. Just enjoy yourself… and being with yourself.

4. Sin with purpose. What do I mean? While self-discipline can get you your desired results, build character, and blah blah blah, you need to take an intentional break from it every now and then. Indulge in your guilty pleasures, knowing full well that you’re worth it.

5. Have fun, positive conversations with yourself. Make up jokes. Laugh for no reason. Compliment yourself in the mirror. Have fun with yourself and really come to love your own company.

6. If someone is nasty or rude to you, understand that it has absolutely nothing to do with you. It’s their opinion, not yours. Just remember and live by this very powerful phrase. “Your opinion of me is none of my business.”

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